Fathers

Fatherhood is really important. without the father in the home there can be such a difference in how the children are raised. I am not saying that single mothers arent capable of raising good kids, I grew up with a single Mother and I think my siblings and i turned out great. But if i would have had a Father in the home, there would have been a lot more stability in our family.

coming from a girl that grew up without a Dad, having a Dad is really important. You kinda dont realize how much they do for you until you don't have one anymore. I would always see my friends Dads and all they do, and my friends would even complain about how protective their Dads are. But they are that way to keep you safe.

There was an article that we read for class that said

"Men are a bit more skeptical than women that a single mother can do as good a job raising a child as two 
parents can, and men are more likely to say an increase in the number of single mothers is bad for society."

I dont think that means men are sexist and saying that women cant do as good of job as them, but they know their role in the family and that is to provide and protect. 

Appreciate your Fathers and everything they do for you. 

Communication

Communication is key to every relationship. Without good communication any relationship, no matter how in love you feel, is doomed to failure.

Communication isn't only just using words, we are constantly communicating with our body language and facial expressions as well. no matter what words we use, our facial expressions, body language and tone convey another message. If I said "You look great" depending on what my tone of voice and facial expression is, it can be taken as a good thing or something sarcastic.

Just remember that when you say something, people also pay attention to the way you hold your body. You can easily offed someone if you arent careful. pay attention to your words as well, once spoken, you cant take them back.

You are a Daughter of God

This week we talked about a very sensitive subject in class that may be hard for many of you to hear or think about. we talked about a young girl who was molested and sexually abused by her older brother. It may seem hard to fathom, or believe that could really happen. But it does.

The aspect I wanted to talk to you about today was the after effects of sexual abuse in these girls. ( the particular girl we talked about had a happy ending where she was able to move on and forgive her brother). There are many situations where there are underlying effects of this abuse. My teacher talked about how many times these girls are dawn into relationships where similar things happen. I asked him if they consciously do that, or if they subconsciously make that decision. He told me that obviously any girl wouldnt want to be in that type of situation or relationship again. and there are several factors why it happens.

I began thinking myself and come up with my own theory. Do not take this as fact or that its me saying this is why many girls find themselves in sexually abusive relationships. I believe that when these young girls are molested, their view of their body can change. I becomes a less sacred and clean thing. So when men want to take advantage of her body in the future, she has already been desensitized and doesn't view her body as something she should protect cause it has already been corrupted.

I want tell you girls though, just because this has happened to you, doesn't mean your body is any less sacred and should demand as much respect as any other girl. You are a Daughter of God and he loves you.

Re connection, good or bad?

Social Media is a fun and distracting tool. It is very convenient when you have time to kill to just pull out you phone and get on Facebook, Snap-chat or Instagram. We are able to see what people in out lives have been up to, and keep that small connection to our friends even though we cant be with them all of the time. Will all of those benefits, what could the drawbacks be?

Sometimes reconnecting with old friends is not always a good thing. Especially when you are married and are able to reconnect with and old fling. It would be really easy to let that excitement take you somewhere you shouldn't be. Even when you are just taking to them a lot, that takes away from your desire to talk to your spouse and share your day with them.

Even when you confide in your friend more than you do your Spouse, that creates a rift between the two of you. You should always want to talk to your significant other first and foremost. they should be the most important people in your life, your best friend and companion. you should never let the convenience of social media or reconnecting with old friends detract from your marriage.